As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely skilled at identifying a narcissistic spouse in a marriage and guiding a spouse carefully to terminate a marriage.
Is it impossible to live up to the standards of your spouse? Are their demands intense? Do they remind you constantly that you are not as smart or as engaging as they are? You are probably married to a narcissist!
No one sets out to marry a narcissist. Their behavior charms you and sneaks up on you. Don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed if you find yourself the victim of a narcissist; you are not alone! Once you are enveloped in their world, it’s often difficult to get out.
Narcissism is a personality disorder. Personality disorders are conditions in which people have traits that cause them to feel and behave in socially distressing ways. This limits their ability to have healthy relationships.
Narcissists have an inflated view of themselves.
They can be arrogant, grandiose, entitled, and conceited. Narcissists thrive in relationships that focus on them, fulfilling only their needs and interests.
You may ask yourself, “How did I get here?”
The answer is you were seduced by their charisma and cunning tactics. Don’t be too hard on yourself. The best and the brightest can be deceived by this personality disorder.
There are various healthy traits of narcissism in all of us. But then there is the actual diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder.
From my psychiatric training, I want to share with you some of the telltale signs of narcissistic behavior:
A narcissist:
- Believes they are “special”- can only be understood by an intellectual few or should associate with only the elite
- Has a grandiose sense of self
- Demands excessive attention
- Has a strong sense of entitlement
- Lacks empathy
- Is arrogant
- Spends a lot of time on appearance
- Is extremely likable when you first meet
- Is his/she is his/her favorite subject
- Name drops
- Is a drama king/queen
- Is hypersensitive to criticism
- Takes no responsibility for anything
- Is a control freak
That was exhausting!! Narcissists usually are!
If you are married to someone with several of these traits, it’s time to consider moving on…
Life with a narcissist is usually abusive and definitely emotionally draining.
Taking the right steps, with the skilled guidance of a professional, is imperative to safely remove yourself from this type of abusive relationship and marriage.
Not just any divorce attorney will do! You need the strong guidance and psychological insight of a divorce attorney skilled at the nuances of narcissism.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be confusing and painful. You feel ignored and dismissed. Your feelings, desires, and needs are never acknowledged. You don’t feel safe, cared for, or heard in your relationship. The pressure for you to be perfect, expected by the narcissist, can make you feel depressed, on edge, and frustrated. You are under constant pressure to say and do the right thing. Being married to a narcissist can be devastating.
If I can help you navigate a path out of this type of marriage, let me know.
I am familiar with the traits of a narcissist and uniquely trained as both a medical professional and divorce attorney to help you successfully and safely divorce the narcissist in your life.
All our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.
Stay healthy and safe!
Warm regards,
Lois
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