I receive calls all the time - I actually received a few this past weekend - from frantic spouses saying, “I’ve been served with a summons for divorce, what do I do?” They were super surprised receiving a summons for divorce during the holidays!
As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator for over 35 years, I explain three things. First, I tell them they have been formally put on notice that their spouse has filed a petition for divorce.
I also ask them to look at the summons & complaint to see what their spouse is asking for, like spousal support, child support, distribution of assets, division of property, custody, counsel fees, and so on.
Second, I tell them that when you are properly served, a clock starts in court. In every state, there is a limit to the amount of time you have to file and serve an answer to your spouse's divorce summons.
The number of days you have varies from state to state. However, in every state, the countdown begins the day you are served with your divorce papers. In New York State it is normally 20 days.
Thirdly, I tell them not to be afraid. There is help and there are a few ways to respond.
My role as a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator is to be legally informative and emotionally supportive in a sad and difficult time, especially during the holidays with emotions running high. I try to pave the path to productive discussions amidst a flurry of anger and confusion to help a spouse make the right decisions.
So if you are served with a summons, I suggest you do the following:
- Speak with a divorce attorney/mediator. Find out what your rights are, and what you are entitled to;
- Consider mediation - mediation is less stressful, not adversarial, more manageable, amicable, cost effective and less time consuming;
- Acknowledge your emotions! They will range from tears, to anger, to wanting revenge. It’s okay to feel sad and hurt!;
- Don’t try to hold on to someone who wants out. You don’t need to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. You deserve much better!;
- Hire a divorce attorney/mediator who feels right to you. Someone you connect with and who will guide, support and fight for you and your family!
Struggling relationships often end in divorce because the couple has personality differences and have stopped trying and drifted apart. Feelings are ignored and more often than not, one spouse wants to stay, while the other spouse wants to go.
When a spouse decides to end a marriage, they have often made this decision in response to their needs not being met, a breakdown in communication, or simply not wanting to be married any longer.
If you get served with a summons, don’t wait, call me!
I will be happy to speak with you and walk you through your options.
Divorce doesn’t have to be painful, divisive or expensive! It can be amicable, cooperative and less expensive!
Having successfully served NYC for over 35 years as an experienced New York divorce attorney and medically-trained mediator, I can tell you a divorce with dignity is possible.
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Stay healthy and safe!
Warm regards,
Lois
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