As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator for over 35 years, I hear all kinds of complex divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these stories monthly with you.
Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my clients’ privacy. The purpose of sharing these divorce stories with you is to let you know that you are not alone. There are peaceful, rational solutions available to you. You really canhave a happily-ever-after.
Mavis and Glen were married for 16 years. They had four adorable children, ages 2, 4, 6 & 9. Both were professionals. He worked in the financial industry with an expertise in crypto-currency, and she was a celebrity psychologist. They had met on a dating app and had a lot in common. The wife had come into the marriage with a lot more assets than the husband. He agreed to sign a prenuptial agreement, and was very supportive of her high profile career.
When Mavis called me, it was a Sunday night and I was watching an opera online. She left a voicemail and simply said, “My husband has squandered all of our assets. I really need your help.”
When we spoke the next day, she was not just angry, she was heartbroken. She told me she still loved her husband very much. She said he was a great father, and had been a good husband. She further explained during the COVID 19 pandemic the family had grown even closer, spending so much quality time at home together. She had trusted Glen to manage the family assets, especially with his expertise in the financial industry. Thinking he had squandered all their money to fund his crypto-currency fantasies was surreal.
When she confronted him, he appeared ashamed, but would not explain what had happened. After some investigation, she found out he had used some of the funds for crypto-currency investing, but most of the 1.2 million dollars he gambled and he owed money to some very scary characters. Not only had he lost all their money, he had endangered the family. That was just not acceptable. Mavis decided she simply didn’t know who he was, and could not trust him. She decided, for the safety of her children and herself, the marriage had to end.
Mavis told me she did not want to drag this through the court system, because she needed to protect her professional high-profile status. She asked me if I thought mediation would work.
Mediation can work if you have two consenting parties. So I suggested she tell her husband she wanted a divorce and wanted to do it amicably by mediation. He reluctantly agreed, and decided to try mediation.
I was able to successfully guide them through the process. Glen realized during our mediation sessions the pain he had caused the family and admitted he really needed some help. I was able to introduce him to a therapist on my team who specializes in addiction issues. Mavis secured sole custody of the children, but was open to liberal visitation. She and the children stayed in the marital residence - their home valued at $4.5 million dollars. The separation agreement was fair and reasonable to both. The divorce was successfully kept out of the media, and Mavis recouped some of her money as the result of a skillfully crafted agreement I facilitated.
If you would like to share your story with me, call me. I will give you common sense answers to all your divorce questions. I will help you, as I did with Mavis and her family, to find a silver lining, using my powerful divorce mediation method so you can move on with your life peacefully.
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I look forward to hearing your story, and helping you find the best possible solution.
Stay healthy & safe!
Warm regards,
Lois
New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner has sophisticated financial expertise and will help you with a complicated divorce!
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