The pandemic and isolation over the last two years made many couples look more closely at some of the issues that have been eating away at their long-time marriages.
The stigma of divorce has certainly changed since the 50s and 60s. Women have risen in the workforce and are in stronger positions financially. For others the children are grown, and staying together for the sake of the children is no longer a necessity. For still others, it is thinking about life expectancy and people living much longer, wondering if they really want to spend a lifetime in a miserable marriage.
As a New York divorce attorney and mediator, I see older couples with long marriages divorcing more often these days. The pandemic has added more stress to these already strained marriages.
Faye reached out to me early on in the pandemic. She had been a homemaker for 32 years, raising two children, and now for the last 5 years she was working from home providing life coaching sessions online. She had created quite a following on TikToc and was doing very well financially. Her husband was a tax attorney earning a high six figure salary.
When Faye called me she said she had come to realize during the pandemic that this marriage was not working for her anymore. She was not sleeping in the same bed with her husband, and there was no love or affection. He had his own life and she had her own life. She explained to me living this way wasn’t enough for her, and she felt she deserved better! Faye wanted to feel loved, cared for and excited to be alive. She did discuss these feelings with her husband numerous times, asked him to attend a therapy session, but he wasn’t interested and seemed to be content.
She called to ask me about mediation and after our consultation, she discussed mediation with her husband. He agreed to participate in the mediation process and they were able to successfully agree on how they would proceed with their divorce.
The couple had hundreds of thousands of dollars in assets, including securities accounts and real estate. Since this was a long marriage, they agreed assets and pensions would be divided fairly and Faye was able to remain in the family home.
Since the children were over 21, the couple did not have to deal with child support or custody in their agreement.
It takes sophisticated legal advice to plan a late-life divorce. As a seasoned divorce attorney for over 35 years and mediator with psychological training, I have the unique skills necessary to guide you through this type of divorce.
When necessary, I engage the assistance of my litigation partner, team of experts, which consists of trust and estate attorneys, accountants, tax lawyers, financial advisors, psychologists, and life coaches, to make sure all issues are thoroughly addressed.
If you are thinking of divorce, call me, I can help you!
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Warm regards,
Lois
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