Even if you are not quite ready to get divorced, you need to be ready and Financially Prepared!
Deciding to divorce is a complex process. Knowing how easy or difficult the process will be depends on you and how your spouse responds.
The better prepared you are emotionally and financially, will in part dictate how smooth or turbulent the divorce obstacle course will be.
Depending on the make-up of your marriage, there are some legal, emotional and financial divorce tips with which you should be equipped.
As a psychologically trained divorce attorney/mediator with over 35 years experience, I recommend the following:
1.Consult with an attorney and a mediator or an attorney who is also a mediator.
It's a good idea to consult with an attorney, especially if you have children or assets. Choose the right person for you – someone who represents who you are and your divorce style. If you don’t have easy access to the family funds, start putting some money aside so you can afford to pay an upfront retainer, which is almost always required. It is best not to navigate a divorce on your own.
Ask lots of questions. Choose the attorney or mediator who will listen and pay attention to your wants and needs. Speak with someone before you are ready to do anything so you don’t make some common mistakes.
2. Make Copies. Make Copies. Make Copies.
Photocopy every important, relevant financial document you can get your hands on. I would say go back and make copies of documents for the last three years of your marriage. This should include tax returns, bank checking account statements, pension, stock, portfolio statements, credit card statements and pay stubs to supply your lawyer or mediator.
3. Avoid Damaging Credit Problems.
If you are using a joint credit card, you are still responsible for any charges made by your spouse. If charges are not paid, those defaults can end up on your credit report. Establish credit cards and accounts in your own name to build and protect your credit.
4. Make Sure You Have Medical Coverage.
Medical insurance coverage usually ends at divorce. If you are on your spouse's insurance plan, you should be able to continue coverage for up to 18 or 36 months under COBRA. Under this plan someone has to pay the premiums. These premiums can be very expensive so you may want to consider shopping around for different coverage. Today there are insurance carriers with lower premiums than offered by COBRA.
5. Take Home and Asset Inventory.
Know what you have! Write down your assets, debts, and what is in your home. It's helpful to compile lists. The more information you have, the better. Your attorney or mediator will thank you. You may want to consider taking photos or videos of your home contents. This may help in the division of personal property. You may want to make copies of family photos and CDs. You would be surprised how the division of these items can sometimes cause arguments and stress.
6. Divorce Has Tax Consequences.
There are important tax ramifications with real estate, deferred compensation, retirement plans and other assets. If a stock is valued at $3,000, it may only be worth $2,600 in cash after capital gains taxes are paid. It would not be the same as receiving $3,000 in cash in a divorce settlement. In fairly dividing the assets, you must consider the tax consequences before the division. Consult with your accountant to discuss the tax ramifications of your possible asset allocation.
7. Fully Understand the Assets You Choose.
When you are choosing which assets you want, choose carefully. If you want the house, educate yourself about the fair market value. Keep in mind you have to make mortgage payments, pay taxes, interest, insurance, utilities etc. Will you be able to afford this once the divorce takes place? Pensions are usually taxable when you take out the funds. Fully understand your financial picture! Choose your assets wisely!
8. Stay in Your Home.
Don’t move out of your home before or during your divorce! Unless you fear physical or emotional harm, don’t move out of your home. Talk to your lawyer or mediator before you make your move. Leaving the marital residence can have major ramifications.
9. Consider Different Professionals to Help You.
In some cases you will need experts such as an accountant, financial advisor, appraiser, or therapist. As a seasoned divorce attorney/mediator, I have developed an extraordinary team of professionals who work with my clients so they are informed and protected throughout their divorce journey.
10. Choose your Friends Carefully.
When you have developed relationships as a couple, you never know who may end up on your spouse’s side and turning on you or even testifying against you later.
If you need support, consult with a therapist (call me if you need some recommendations. I have some superb professionals as part of my team.) who can keep you thinking clearly in order to focus on your divorce plan.
Confide in your therapist and let the friends that were part of your life before your marriage be part of your healing, not necessarily part of the divorce process.
Divorce can take its toll on you emotionally, financially and legally. Being prepared will give you the tools and the strength to make better decisions.
With over 35 years of legal experience and my medical training, I can uniquely guide you towards a happier and healthier life.
Even if you are not quite ready to divorce, call me. I will answer all your questions and help you to take your first step!
Schedule your free consultation right now!
I look forward to speaking with you!
Warm regards,
Lois
Call New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner now to schedule an appointment. 212.734.1551.