June is a magical month for weddings—sunshine, flowers in full bloom, and love in the air. Whether you’re planning an intimate backyard ceremony or a grand destination celebration, the excitement of preparing for your big day is unforgettable.
But amid the dress fittings, floral arrangements, and seating charts, there’s one detail couples often overlook the prenuptial agreement.
As a psychologically trained family law attorney and mediator, I realize a “prenup” doesn’t exactly scream romance. But the truth is a well-thought-out prenup is not a sign of distrust. As I have explained to clients it's a sign of maturity, clarity,and mutual respect. In fact, it can strengthen your relationship by encouraging open communication about finances, values, and future expectations.
Here is why this legal document deserves a spot on your wedding prep checklist.
What Is a Prenuptial Agreement?
A prenuptial agreement, or prenup, is a legally binding contract signed before marriage that outlines how assets, debts, and property will be handled in the event of divorce or death. It can also define financial roles during the marriage.
Far from being a “rich people only” thing, prenups are becoming increasingly common among everyday couples—especially for those marrying later in life, entering second marriages, or blending families.
Why Should You Consider One Before Your June Wedding?
✅ 1. Protect What You’ve Built
If you’re walking into marriage with personal savings, a business, a home, or retirement funds, a prenup helps you protect those assets.
✅ 2. Support Children from a Previous Relationship
A prenup can ensure that children from a prior marriage or relationship are financially protected, especially when it comes to inheritance.
✅ 3. Clarify Debt Responsibility
In today’s world, many people carry student loans, credit card debt, or medical bills. A prenup can define who is responsible for which debts, so there are no surprises later.
✅ 4. Preserve Family Property or Heirlooms
If you’re bringing generational assets into the marriage—like a vacation home or jewelry—a prenup helps keep those in the family.
✅ 5. Set Expectations Around Finances
Talking money now prevents resentment later. A prenup opens the door for honest conversations around spending, saving, and sharing.
Isn’t a Prenup Unromantic?
Not at all. Think of it this way: you’re planning for your life together with eyes wide open. Just like you buy insurance to protect your home or car, a prenup protects both of you from misunderstandings, should life take an unexpected turn.
And let’s be real—there’s nothing more romantic than protecting each other with respect and transparency.
Timing Tips: Don’t Wait Until the Last Minute
A prenup should never feel rushed. Ideally, both parties should have:
- Enough time to review and negotiate
- Their own attorneys (to ensure fairness)
- Full financial disclosures
- Starting the prenup conversation as soon as possible before the wedding is best.
How to Bring It Up (Gracefully)
If you’re worried about raising the topic, try saying something like:
“We’re building a life together, and I want us to talk openly about everything—including finances. I’d feel more secure if we put things in writing to protect both of us.”
You’re not saying, “I don’t trust you.” You’re saying, “Let’s take care of each other by being smart.”
Your June wedding will be a day to remember, filled with love, laughter, and promises for the future. And one of the most loving things you can do for your future spouse is to plan not just for the good times, but for every possibility.
Within the scope of a relationship, respectful communication is key—be honest with yourself and your future spouse. Communication helps ensure that you don’t marry the wrong person and that you stay married to the right person.
As a family law attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have drafted hundreds of prenuptial agreements. A prenuptial agreement is not a plan to fail—it’s a plan to protect. And in today’s world, that’s not just smart. It’s empowering!
Call me right now to schedule your free prenup consultation. I will answer all your questions and make some recommendations you may not have thought about. Call 212.734.1551.
Warm wedding wishes,
Lois