Divorcing a spouse is never easy, but when your partner has manic depressive disorder (bipolar disorder), the process can be even more complex.
This mental health condition involves extreme mood swings, which can make negotiations, legal proceedings, and emotional closure more challenging.
As a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can tell you If you are considering a divorce, understanding how to navigate this situation with compassion and care is crucial.
So what is manic depressive disorder? It is more commonly known as bipolar disorder, and is characterized by periods of extreme highs (mania or hypomania) and extreme lows (depression). Your spouse may exhibit unpredictable behaviors, impulsive financial decisions, emotional outbursts, or prolonged periods of sadness and withdrawal.
I have worked with many spouses with this disorder and these mood swings can complicate divorce proceedings, especially if they impact financial stability, child custody, or communication. For this reason, I often encourage spouses tackling this issue to consider mediation as a more rational and compassionate approach to divorce.
I encourage divorcing spouses to consider the following:
1. Prioritize Your Safety and Well-Being
If your spouse’s condition has led to aggressive or erratic behavior, prioritize your safety. Seek support from trusted family members and friends.
2. Seek Legal Counsel With Mental Health Experience
A divorce attorney/mediator with experience handling cases involving mental health disorders,
Like myself, can help you understand your rights and the legal complexities that may arise. I advise spouses on custody arrangements, asset division, and spousal support while also considering their spouse’s mental health challenges.
3. Gather Essential Documentation
Prepare important documents in advance, such as:
- Financial records (bank statements, tax returns, property deeds, and debt records)
- Medical records and psychiatric evaluations
- Communication records (texts, emails, or messages relevant to legal proceedings)
- Custody-related information if children are involved
4. Consider Mediation or Collaborative Divorce
As a divorce attorney/mediator for over 35 years, I know, from experience, traditional litigation can be adversarial and may exacerbate your spouse’s symptoms. When possible, I suggest spouses consider mediation which encourages a compassionate approach, open communication, healthy negotiations and considerable financial savings.
5. Prepare for Emotional Challenges
Ending a marriage with someone who has bipolar disorder may involve guilt, sadness, or emotional exhaustion. Therapy or support groups can provide coping mechanisms to navigate these feelings. As part of my comprehensive divorce package, I provide recommendations for therapists that offer free consultations to my clients as part of my divorce process.
6. Manage Custody and Co-Parenting Concerns
If you have children, always prioritize their best interests. If your spouse’s condition affects their ability to parent safely, you may need to request a psychological evaluation or supervised visitation. Document any instances of erratic behavior that could impact custody decisions.
7. Secure Financial Stability
If your spouse has made reckless financial decisions due to their condition, consult a financial planner or attorney to protect your assets. We have financial experts as part of our team that provide complimentary financial assessments.
8. Have a Support System
Lean on friends, family, or therapists to help you through this process. Engaging with a support group for spouses of individuals with mental health disorders can also provide insight and encouragement.
As a medical professional, divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I call tell you divorcing a spouse with manic depressive disorder requires patience, careful planning, and emotional strength.
If you are ready to divorce a spouse with a mental health disorder, I can help you prioritize your well-being, provide legal and emotional support, and help you navigate this challenging transition with clarity and dignity. I have mental health professionals and financial advisors who offer free consultations as part of my process.
Call us now to find out more and to schedule your free consultation.
Call 212.734.1551.
I look forward to helping you.
Warm regards,
Lois